I know I know. Another blogger know it all writing about having a perfect marriage and how everyone else can have one too. Well…not so much.
Our marriage is FAR from perfect. We fight all the time. I want to kill my husband multiple times a day. But I still love my husband deeply so it takes a LOT of hard work to keep the marriage strong and enjoyable. Six years but feels like 60. I mean lets be real here our spouses are annoying, like really fricken annoying. Which brings me to my first tip-
PATIENCE. ohhhh lord patience. soo much patience. You are both in this marriage together so be patient with one another. Your partner is tired and has just worked an 8 hour day and all they want to do is kick their shoes off and sit on the couch for a moment, let the shoes sit there for a minute. OR heck even pick them up for them and put them away. Try to avoid the glair that you give them while basically shooting fire out of your eyes. It is important to remember that both people in the relationship need help sometimes. So be patient.
“There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.”
– Martin Luther
COMMUNICATION. This one really should have been the first tip because to me it is the most important. Bad communication is the root of all evil in a marriage. I’m a talker, a planner, I need the details and I need them now. My husband – not. Trying to get information from my husband is like trying to steal gold from Fort Knox. It ain’t happenin’! Try to fill your partner in on the important stuff and even the stuff in between. What’s for Dinner? or “What time is Girl scouts?” isn’t going to cut it for an all day communication situation. We are all busy I KNOW. But find the time to just chat with your significant other. Fill each other in on the goods!
“The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds.”
– Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
PULLING YOUR WEIGHT. Yes. Yes. Yes. This is 2017 baby – It is a fair partnership around here. I’m talking dishes, cooking dinner, laundry, giving baths, vacuuming ALL OF IT. EQUALITY FOR ALL when it comes to that laundry detergent honey bunny! Nothing gets my resentment built up like doing the kids baths every night for a week and half, cooking and cleaning up dinner, cranking out some laundry, also working 40 hours a week. No bueno! Take turns and pitch in!
“When you trip over love, it is easy to get up. But when you fall in love, it is impossible to stand again.”
– Albert Einstein
TALK POSITIVELY ABOUT EACH OTHER. As much as you would like to tell all your girlfriends how annoying and messy your partner has been, don’t. Instead say nice things they have done or do. Praise them for their strengths. Tell everybody about that killer chicken dish they make or how they can fix anything and everything!
“When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance.”
– John Lennon
TAKE TIME TO BE TOGETHER. Working 40+ hours a week with kids and schedules and house work is difficult on a marriage. When it seems like never ending work and stress it can cause issues! Take the time together to do things you both really enjoy! Spend the day without distractions just having fun together! Go on adventures! Make jokes! Kiss and hug! Just be together, stress free.
“Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind.”
– William Shakespeare
Cheers to love! ?